When do you get Married ?

Our wedding

I dated my Husband for 8 years before we got married. We waited because we still needed to grow emotionally and mentally. My Husband, like many men wanted to be a provider, have a “good” job and get me the ring I wanted before we got married. After college, about 4-5 years of dating, I wanted to get married, because I was ready to build financially, which is a big benefit of marriage.

I met my Husband in college and we had so much fun together but when it came to marriage we were scared and it didn’t seem like anything fun. Also, we were in a rush for a forever relationship when we were still having fun dating. The trajectory was to be married with children one day but there was only negative things said, about marriage in our twenties. We didn’t know what to expect or if we would be able to live up to the expectations of marriage. We had first hand examples of divorced single parents, it was as if we had no guide. Wrong. We sought out the resources we had.

We went to marriage counseling, we read books, we talked to other married couples and we prayed about it. Soon, we felt more and more prepared. However We knew we wanted to be the best spouses for each other but we couldn’t be the best until we both worked on growing emotionally and mentally.

We both believed it was 💯 better to be single, than to be in a bad marriage. We decided long ago we were going to wait for God’s best and not settle. And today we are So Glad We Waited! When do you get married? I waited on God to guide my Husband and I, it was the perfect timing. It was not when I expected and it wasn’t when my Husband expected it either. We were both open and willing to do whatever it took to curate a healthy God loving marriage. We both understand the importance relationships and love here on earth will be an everlasting investment.

Marriage doesn’t make relationships hard, Marriage magnifies what is already there. I’ve never been able to feel such security and intimacy until being united in marriage.